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How Do I Stand Being with My Children All Day?

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Somebody recently asked me (upon hearing that I homeschool) how I “stand” being with my children all day. A little taken aback, I didn’t quite know how to reply, and did sort of murmer out how it isn’t always easy but we enjoy each other. Afterwards I worried, did I sound judgemental, did I answer in gentleness, was I loving or defensive.  In the end, I was just sad. Sad that our society sees kids as something extra. An accessory. Something to even get away from during the day.

Now I am not going to try and sound like everyday is roses. There are many days where it is hard. Especially in the winter. Yet, isn’t any job? Does every job come with ease? Or any ministry for that matter? However, I see this job as such a privilege. Such a calling. Such a ministry. Raising my kids and teaching them. It is a wonderful gift.

Asking how I stand being with my kids implies that if I went to work, I’d rather be with my co-workers than my family. Or if I sent them to school, I’d rather be alone.  It just makes me sad. Children are a blessing. It is a huge responsibility to raise them. It is a huge opportunity that God has given me, and I don’t want to waste it by trying to wish it away or escape it.

There are many days when it is easy to have a negative attitude, but perspective matters. I wrote this on my Simply Living for Him facebook page

I don’t know why I act surprised when there is laundry to do. Everyday. Or the dishes are in a continuous cycle of load and unload the dishwasher. Moms….these things are never going to go away, so why do we grumble that we have to do them? If I adjust my attitude and recognize that my work and my service at this season of life is to serve my family, then I am free to JOYFULLY do these tasks, knowing that I am serving my family and the Lord. It is a blessing to be a mom. Full laundry means we are clothed and we have a family to take care of. See it as a blessing. See it as a privilege. Perspective matters mamas! Like I tell my kids…schoolwork isn’t going anywhere for 12+ years, so complaining about it won’t make it go away. Instead, consider the task at hand as work from the Lord, practice gratitude, and serve joyfully…For the LORD ♥

Isn’t that the truth? If we could see children (after all they ARE the next generation) as worthy of being with, and serving our family as actually serving the Lord, wouldn’t it change our attitude? I hope my children never heard the lady ask how I “stand” being with them. I would never want them to think of themselves as less than worthy of being with.

And for the lady that asked me, it isn’t her fault. Her perspective is what our society teaches these days. That children are a burden rather than a blessing. A chore rather than work that produces good fruit.

So I ask God to give her grace, to give me grace, and to never forget in a few short years, all of this will be over…the kids will be grown and I will be alone or able to choose my daily company. Yet for now, I will choose them, and I will enjoy this time of my life and I will do more than “stand” my children, I will embrace them.



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Exciting News and Lessons From the Master Teacher

 
sought the Lordand he answered mehe delivered me from all my fears

Anyone who has been with me long enough here, knows the last several months have been full of ups and downs. My husband lost his job, we pushed through Hurricane Sandy and a power outage for almost two weeks, and so forth.

God has brought us through many experiences, and many different places these past several months. And not one single second of it was for naught or for harm. Ever. It was all God working for good.

I don’t know that I could adequately describe all the variants of emotions that have rained down on us. Yet the things that I do know astound me. They all fall in line with what we have been studying in our school this year. I know without a shadow of a doubt, that God put us in His Word studying the exact things we were, for this time in our lives.

He is the Master Teacher. 

Truly.

 

  • Like Abraham with Isaac, we are called to have faith in things so unseen. Even when the Lord bring us to a place of true testing where we think we can’t go on a single second in this state, He shows up to relieve us.
  • Like Joseph, the things we thought would be for harm, God works for good.
  • Like Abraham, we hang on to the promises of God and cling tight knowing He will not forsake us.
  • Like the Israelites at times- oh we forget, oh we forget what God has done, and we quickly complain again or lose hope. Yet He redeems.


There is so much more, but these are the things I can articulate now.

So now I will share what God has done for us through this. When my husband lost his full-time job in October, he also at the time had his own business on the side, FarmHaus Studios. He was able to bring in freelance jobs during this time, and actually in the last month or so, was given an abundant amount of jobs. Deep down in our souls, we both knew that ultimately some day my husband would want to make his freelance business his full-time job. Yet we were afraid. Would it be enough to sustain us?

I won’t go into all the details, but there are so many pieces of the puzzle that lined up these past few weeks….from job offers that wouldn’t work to more freelance jobs being offered.

We prayed for clarity. While away at the Real Refreshment Retreat I begged God in prayer time for relief from this situation. The uncertainty of the future was becoming so hard.

Then He answered. 

He delivered.

 

One day later, we had complete clarity. A situation arose where we knew with certainty that God was calling my husband to pursue his freelance business.

And then there’s Exodus. Oh, my goodness. God is teaching us in His Word exactly what we are learning in life these days. Exactly.

 

We read in Exodus this morning… (bold and italics are mine)

Didn’t we say to you in Egypt, ‘Leave us alone; let us serve the Egyptians’? It would have been better for us to serve the Egyptians than to die in the desert!”
 Moses answered the people, “Do not be afraid. Stand firm and you will see the deliverance the Lord will bring you today. The Egyptians you see today you will never see again. The Lord will fight for you; you need only to be still.”
 Then the Lord said to Moses, “Why are you crying out to me? Tell the Israelites to move on.  Raise your staff and stretch out your hand over the sea to divide the water so that the Israelites can go through the sea on dry ground.  I will harden the hearts of the Egyptians so that they will go in after them. And I will gain glory through Pharaoh and all his army, through his chariots and his horsemen. The Egyptians will know that I am the Lord when I gain glory through Pharaoh, his chariots and his horsemen.”

 

Just last week, I was there. I was faced with the sea in front of me and the armies pursuing behind. I saw only was here and now. Temporal. I felt trapped. There was no clear answer. That is in human terms.

Then God provided a way. An unseen way. Or even a way that was there all along, but was now so clear.

And I felt relief. Relief beyond anything I felt lately. I can hardly type without trembling because God is so ever present and making himself known.

All of these things happen, so God can gain glory through it. I told my kids…If the Israelites escaped Egypt easily, would God’s power have been seen? If there was no struggle, would they have known God’s power? If Daddy had gotten a job the next day after he lost it, would God have been able to show Himself? Would we be as close to Him now? Would God have received so much glory for what He does?

No. We need to go through these trials so He can gain glory. Done. End of story. It is ALL for Him. Not for my comfort, or my relief. For Him. So the world can see HIM through us.

So, now to tell you…my husband’s company, FarmHaus Studios will be our family business. We have prayed over this as a family, and are committed to keeping our eyes on Him as a family, that He will provide for us each step of the way. God doesn’t call you to something and then leave you there.  He will equip us as long as we look to Him. 

We have committed as a family to praying together for his company weekly, and to look to the Lord in every decision and detail. He is ultimately in charge of all if this. I know He wants us to do this, so we will have to rely on Him that much more. It would be too easy to get a “secure” job, and quickly forget our True Provider. This will keep us relying on Him for each job and for each provision. Exactly where we need to be.

We are so excited at the opportunities for us that will be opened up through having a family business. We have desired to be involved in ministry more, and we see more doors opening this way than if he had taken a full-time job. God is magnificent. I can hardly express how much closer I have grown to Him through all of this.

Finally, if you are interested in visiting my husband over at FarmHaus Studios click here. He is talented in all aspects of design, video, multimedia, and web. (He’s also done my eBook publishing and design) You can see an amazing example of his video production here.

Most of all my husband loves the Lord and desires to glorify Him in all. You can also like him on facebook here. Tell him I sent you over- He’ll be thrilled with the support.

 

May God be glorified in all for my family’s future. All Glory to HIM!

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If My House is Messy…


( I am posting this from the archives..just because sometimes I need to remember this too 🙂

I composed this post this morning as I was frantically cleaning my house, and realizing sometimes a mess speaks volumes…


My house has been a wreck, yet it has been such a busy few weeks, some things just don’t seem that important anymore…


If My House is Messy…

If my bed is unmade…
It’s because of the little ones sleeping with me at night, comforting each other ,while daddy was away…
sleeping in, cuddling close…

If there’s toys scattered about…
it’s because children are playing, exploring, and just being kids…enjoying their toys…

If my furniture is dusty…
it’s because I just didn’t have time to dust…I was too busy building a fort, playing in the yard, and coloring with my 2 year old…

If my floors are sticky…
it’s because we enjoyed lots of treats together…had company in and out…letting my home be a place of comfort and hospitality…

If my stove is messy, and there’s still crumbs on the counter…
it’s because my kids were busy cooking up their own recipes in the kitchen, and we have an abundance of ingredients…
how grateful am I, not to be looking at an empty pantry…

If my house is messy…
yes, it’s because we LIVE in our home…
LOVE in our home….
and those are the things that matter most…

Sometimes we just need to change our perspective,
and not focus on the mess…
but how the mess was made…

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Pruning…

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I’m pruning things lately that aren’t fruitful. It’s a constant balance in my desire to serve- I can get caught up in wanting to do so many things that I am doing too many, which leads to doing none of them well.

I am realizing I would rather cut back on the amount of things I do and focus on doing the things that I am doing well.  Even though many of the things I do I enjoy and are good things, they are not fruitful if I am spread too thin.

I am pruning. Pruning the branches in me that are not producing fruit- the shoots that spring up and need cutting back so that the others may grow and blossom. Too much activity chokes out the fruit that could be born if there weren’t so many branches begging for nourishment.

How do you maintain balance of the fruit you are cultivating? Are you focused on a few things and doing them well, or are you feeling that only a little bit of nourishment is getting to each branch? I want to produce fruit of quality and not just quantity.

We need to sometimes take a step back in our lives- whether it be in our families, our ministry, or in our homes…Assess what we are doing with our time. What we are doing with are treasure. What we are doing with our talents.

Are we bearing fruit with those things? Or are we using our time, treasure, and our talents to bear fruit? Or are we filling up on so many things that we do not use them efficiently? Are we producing too many weeds? Are our buds beginning to blossom, but then whither from lack of nourishment?

As I look toward spring and I admire the Master Gardner and His handiwork, and I eagerly await to see those blossoms spring forth from the ground and burst from the branches…I will focus on my own branches…carefully pruning, just as the One who teaches us through His Word says…

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He cuts off every branch in me that bears no fruit, while every branch that does bear fruit he prunes so that it will be even more fruitful. 
John 15:2

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