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Karen DeBeus

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Simple Life Lessons From the Greatest Generation

This week my husband’s dear grandmother, age 99, passed away. She was one of the most admired women in my life and the lessons I learned from watching her live life surpassed even the nuggets of wisdom she shared in words. One of the biggest lessons I will remember is when I asked where was her favorite place to be –she had been splitting time between the north and the south at the time– and her response, “My favorite place to be is wherever I am at the moment.” Want to hear more? Listen and be inspired by this wisdom from The Greatest Generation.

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Living Simply in an Upside-Down World

this podcast is sponsored by Apologia

Today I am sharing BIG life updates and then we are talking about how to live more simply, share the Gospel, and live with purpose in this crazy upside-down world. The world is getting darker each day, but we have the remedy- Jesus. Let’s live like it!

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The Emotion With No Name

I wrote these words a few months back when I knew my daughter would not be coming back home to live full-time. She left Easter weekend with the plan to stay out at school for summer and eventually begin her married life out there. Now that they have just announced their engagement, I wanted to share the thoughts I had that weekend. I believe for any parent in a season of transition, these words can be an encouragement.

A Lump in my Throat All Weekend

I started a journal the first night my newborn baby girl slept in her own room, and not in ours next to the bed in her little bassinet. I wrote to her and told her how much I loved her and how hard it was to take this next step.

It was a May evening and for eight straight weeks, she had slept right by my side every night. When she stirred, I heard it. When she let out that first whimper to feed, I heard it. I was continually aware of her every sound and her every move all night long. It became so familiar. 

There were long nights. Endless feedings and changing and crying and repeating it all. I wondered if it would ever end.

There were sweet nights. Where she ate peacefully and fell right asleep in my arms and I didn’t want to move a muscle because for that moment all felt right in the world.

And that evening in May, when it was time to take the next step and put her to sleep in her own room, it was sad and terrifying at the same time. Granted the room was steps away. We lived in a small house. It wasn’t like she’d be far away! But all that had become so routine for the last eight weeks would end and we would start a new routine. And it meant my baby was growing up.

I couldn’t help but think of that night as I sit here knowing that my baby is once again approaching a new step. But this time is different. It’s not just a new step, it’s truly a new life. My baby girl is leaving home. She won’t just be steps away, but in a new state, new town, and new home.

It’s an odd feeling. To be so ecstatic that the Lord has answered your prayer to bring a loving and caring and godly spouse to your daughter. And to be heartbroken at the same time.

I’ve spent the last few days with a  permanent lump in my throat. Unable to even express it really. For a moment I’m joyful and thankful. And the next it hits me. She’s leaving. And there’s joy intertwined with this sadness and it creates a whole new emotion I don’t even have a word for.

Motherhood is filled with moments of letting go mixed in with this emotion with no name. And this time it is the most pronounced it’s ever been. Because at other times on the brink of new steps, she came home. This time she is not.

It hurts to breathe one minute. And the next is joyful anticipation. And there’s a finality to it I haven’t felt before. 

This is it.

She’s not coming back. Not to live permanently, that is. There will be visits and new memories but it will never ever be the same. Our tight-knit family, the Bible time at night, the shows we watched, the ice cream, the adventures together when we went shopping or traveling. The inside jokes. The laughing. It was always us. The homeschooling, the holidays, the arguments even. All of it comes flooding back and just when I think I can’t take another second of it because it hurts too much, the excitement helps push back the sadness.

These are the times you hear about as a mom. But it’s not until you experience them that you really get it.  The times of an emotion with no name. It hurts as much as it feels good.

As I walk this out, I don’t know how I’d walk it without my Savior walking with me. Holding my hand. Telling me this is the way it’s supposed to be. This is part of life. Walk it out. Feel each feeling. But don’t look back. You’re not going that way. Look ahead. Trust the Lord. He knows what He’s doing and when it gets too hard to go another step, let Him carry you.

And that’s what I’m doing. With all my might  I won’t look back. 

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It’s Not About You

Guess what? Your life is not about you. I know that is contrary to everything you have ever heard and what the world tells you on a daily basis, but it’s a lie.

The world says to do what makes you happy. The Bible says to do what makes you holy.

The world says to do what makes you feel good. The Bible says to do what is pleasing to the Lord.

The world says you are number one. The Bible says to put others first and yourself last.

The world says to make yourself known. The Bible says to make Him known.

The world says pat yourself on the back when you do well. The Bible says to glorify God in all things.

The world says you deserve everything you want. The Bible says you deserve nothing (except death) yet God sent Jesus to save you.

I recently saw a snippet of a sermon that talked about going to Heaven and the thief on the cross. When asked how he got into heaven, the only response could be in the third person. Never in the first. Never, “I got here because I did….” Because it has nothing to do with you. The response could only be, “Jesus said I could come.” (https://youtu.be/R_ReeJZtjyM)

The thief was in Heaven because Jesus said He would be. And any of us will only be because of Jesus. Literally, nothing we can do will earn us eternity. It is ALL because of Jesus.

So, therefore, life can not be about us. The minute we make it about us, we have moved away from the Gospel. The minute we make it about us, we take away from God’s glory. And the purpose of our lives and everything we go through in our lives is to bring God glory.

The freedom found in living for Him is true freedom. Gone are the shackles of ourselves. (Oh, have I lived in those shackles!) Striving to do more. Be more. Achieve more. Gain more.

Gone are the shackles of living for others. (Oh, have I lived in those too!) We live free because He has freed us.

Today, know that your life is not about you. That isn’t taking away from who you are, but showing you your true identity in Christ. And that is your value. Your worth. Your life.

When you live knowing that everything you do and say and live is not about you, you have found abundant life in Him. I never want to go back to making it about me, but move forward living for HIM alone.