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October and God’s Goodness

It’s October. September’s golden hour has faded in autumn’s amber dusk. 

Admittedly, September was a difficult month at times, but looking back, it was really a good month. So many changes, and even hard things, that were necessary. It truly was a changing of seasons. As September transitioned from the carefree sunny days of summer to the cooler crisp darker evenings of fall…our family transitioned from a full-time family of six to one of five here at home.

This college journey has been just that…a journey. Words are not sufficient in a blog post-slice-of-the-internet to truly encompass all that has happened in our family. But it is good. Oh so good.

And it isn’t good just because circumstances at the moment are. It is because God is good all the time. The plans He has for our family, regardless of how they even cause pain at times, are still good. He can’t be anything but good and neither can His plans for our lives.

See, that is where we as humans get confused. We think if circumstances are good, then God gets praise. And we shout, “Praise the Lord.” But God is always good, even when our circumstances are not. And through every tear I shed and every sorrow I felt, He was still good. And He was always working toward our good. 

If I had tried to keep things comfortable or feeling good, I would have been getting in the way of His plans. Thankfully, nothing can thwart His plans. And the tears I shed and the grief I felt were all good in the end. 

My life has changed this past month in ways I didn’t expect. And thankfully, I have seen more clearly than ever, my goal to lessen the “stuff” of life and the things that distract me from my purpose. I have a grown child now. Time isn’t infinite here on earth. Just as they always say, “babies don’t keep…” Life moves and I am clearly defining my purpose more than ever. And that purpose has less and less to do with “things” of this world, and more and more to do with Jesus.

As we go through this autumn season, and the leaves give off that glorious glow before they fall to the ground and make way for bare trees…I am also letting go of the things that are dead so that I can allow for things that give life.

I have fixed my eyes on Jesus even more firmly than before. Somehow, letting your child go off into the world really does make you see what truly matters in life. And it is good. All good. 


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Called Home Online Book Study- Join Now!

NOW OPEN! Join the Called Home Online Study!

After many years and thousands of readers who have reached out to me and shared how much my book Called Home encouraged them on their homeschooling journey, I have decided to do something to go beyond the pages of the book!

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More Encouragement and Practical Advice

We are launching the Called Home Online book study! This is not your typical book study- it is an extension of the book, with me, the author, diving in with you while going through each chapter in depth, citing real-life examples of homeschooling experiences, and practical ways to put what you have learned into action.

So many of us read a book, get inspired, and then all we have read becomes a distant memory as life hits us head on each day (ask me how I know!) So many of YOU have told me you’ve read the book several times- often when you need to be reminded of the encouragement. Now, with this online book study, you can watch the videos to take what you have read further and also go back to them when you need inspiration. You will have lifetime access to view them on your own timeline. PLUS you will become a member of our online community group so that you will never walk this journey alone. A group of moms supporting one another is key to our keeping our eyes on the main goals!

If you read Called Home already, you will be further inspired as we dive into each chapter even further. I have expanded on every chapter. There are also questions to help you look to the Word of God to keep you focused on what He says about the issues.

If you haven’t yet read Called Home, then you will be able to read the book and access the study together! A win-win!

How Can I Join?

The weekly discussion will take place via Facebook Groups. There is a $10 membership fee to join. This will give you lifetime access to the videos, early information for any upcoming specials or new launches at Simply Living for Him, and access to special freebies throughout the year.

Videos Start October 1 @ 10 am ET

Every Tuesday, a new video will go up weekly and will be recorded live, but you do not have to be present- the videos will stay up and you can come in at your leisure to watch. And if you happen to catch it live, then you can join in the discussion! Discussions will also take place at any time in the community group (rather than a set time weekly-I can hardly gather my real-life friends at the same time each week, let alone mamas all over the world!) and we will leave it open always. I will check in weekly to answer any questions, take any prayer requests, and more.

If you do not use FB (I understand this is a valid concern) you can still make a private profile to use for the group only. We are choosing the use FB Groups right now because it is the most convenient for the majority (I understand not for everybody, but we have to do what works best for most, knowing nothing will work best for everyone.)

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What is Called Home?

Karen DeBeus wrote this short little ebook in 2013 and the impact has been beyond what she ever imagined. She wrote about her own experience with being called to homeschool (even when she went kicking and screaming!) and how her homeschooling journey has been dependent on letting God lead. She talks about the years she took her eyes off of Jesus and how she floundered, she addresses issues such as the comparison trap, choosing curriculum, etc., but most of all she points you back to Jesus! Let’s face it, many of us homeschooling moms get distracted by the things of this world. Karen believes wholeheartedly, that homeschooling is a calling and must surrender our homeschools (and our lives) to God and let Him lead. And we will find true joy in our journey when we surrender.

Since the publication of this book, tens of thousands have been sold worldwide.

Where can I read the book?

 The book is available on Amazon in Kindle and paperback. I recommend paperback so you can write in the journal section in the back of the book. Find both here.

Who is Karen DeBeus?

Karen is a nationally known speaker, author, and podcaster at Simply Living for Him. She is a veteran homeschooler who has graduated her first and is still schooling her three other children at home. For years homeschooling moms have been encouraged by her talks at homeschooling conventions across the country and her weekly podcast Simply Living for Him. Her mission is simply to point others to Jesus. She lives on her little hobby farm in rural NJ, where her family traded in the rat race to live more simply for the glory of God.




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The Most Important Life Skill To Teach Your Child

Homeschoolers are notorious for teaching life skills. Along with math, reading, and writing, we focus on many of the necessary life skills- balancing a budget, managing a home, cooking a meal, and so on.

But I have found the most important life skill we will teach. Because from it all of the others will fall into place.

Seek God first.

But seek first the kingdom of God and his righteousness, and all these things will be added to you. Matthew 6:33 ESV

Truly. We get so caught up in preparing for life and teaching for a test and making a transcript. But if we teach our children to seek God first, then all that they do will come from keeping God at the center of everything.

What does it mean to seek God first? It means not seeking after self-satisfaction. Not serving oneself. But seeking after what God has laid out in His word- the truth. It means following after God and living out His purposes for our lives. It means building His Kingdom and not our own self-serving little kingdoms.

It means striving for righteousness. Living a life that glorifies God. It means choosing holiness above happiness. Because ultimately our happiness is found in our holiness. It is truly living for God.

If we teach our children to seek after God, we can rest assured that everything else will fall into its proper place. God is ultimately in control of our children’s lives, and we must teach them to depend on Him. Not on us. Not on schoolbooks. Not on achievements. Nope. None of it. Depend on God first and He will order everything else.

Academics fall into place when we are living a life with God at the center. Because ultimately our children will work hard and be diligent because they want to please God. And ultimately God will lead them in all areas of their lives, including academics.

Society has it backward. They say teach your children to be self-sufficient and self-motivated and pursue happiness. But God says, He is sufficient, He is what drives us, and we are to pursue holiness.

Teach your children that only what God says matters. Measure everything against His Word. That is truly the most important “life skill” they can have.

Biblical discernment. A life that is lived for God. Those things matter. And ultimately they will recognize every breath they take comes from God.

Teaching our children life skills are important, but without this life skill, it is all for naught. Follow God. And everything else in life will be an outflow of that relationship. And everything else will be in its proper place.

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My Perspective on Homeschooling Has Changed Now That My Daughter is in College

Bringing my daughter to college has changed everything in so many ways. First, our daily life has changed. The whole family dynamic has changed. It is different. And hard sometimes. But oh, so good too. She is where God has led her to be and we are excited about that! (that makes the hard times easier to handle.) 

But something else changed that I didn’t expect. My perspective on this whole homeschooling journey. Well, there are some regrets-or shall I say, lessons learned. Nothing huge, but things I realize I could have done differently. That’s always the case with the firstborn in anything I am sure…you learn from your mistakes.

But, my perspective on what truly mattered has really shifted. I look at my boys that I am schooling now and realize, these truly are the greatest years. And I want to live out this calling with joy instead of fear that crippled me many times early on.  I want to keep it simple more than ever because I don’t want to be distracted. Time is short…why waste it on things that don’t matter?

I think fear is why I got caught up in so much of the “homeschool stuff” over the years. Yes, fear. Instead of faith.

Homeschooling moms…I know it seems overwhelming and you want to do it all. You want to keep up with what everyone is doing. You want to succeed. You want the best for your kids. You feel the responsibility of educating your child.

I get it. I truly get it.

But looking back in the rearview mirror, it is like everything came into focus.

The time spent around the table, on the couch, on the porch…in the yard…it mattered.

The time spent worrying over all the little details. Did not.

The time we spent together…our inside jokes, our fun moments…and even our arguments and hard times…it all mattered. It was shaping our relationship.

The time spent shopping for school room decor, or researching methods…not so much.

We learned together, and ultimately we raised a young woman…we didn’t just build a transcript. 

Life is about so much more than academics.

She ended up learning math, and science, and history…but most importantly she learned about life.

I see homeschool mamas chasing after so many things- the right curriculum, the right plans, the right stuff…

And I want to tell them…


Stop. God called you to this journey and He already knows what you need to walk through it and do it well.

God called you to this journey and He already knows what your kids need.

So why are you looking everywhere else?

In the end, so much of the stuff I stressed over is just a memory now. It seemed SO so big at the moment. But now…I get it.

The year of the workboxes. Oh, finding just “the right” plastic little boxes and the right cards to insert. That was the homeschooling trend of the time, I suppose.

Or the year I wanted to make sure our little office was transformed into a proper schoolroom. It just had to be the “right atmosphere…” Otherwise, how would they learn? (Ha!)

The right planner. The right system. The discipline chart. The chore chart. The meal plan. The hacks everyone said would make my life easier. You name it. I chased it.

In the end, they seemed to complicate things more. I relied on all these things. Expecting them to make me successful. And if I wasn’t, then on to the next one…Always a new trend to follow. Always a new thing to research.

And all along, my kids’ hearts and my own heart were needing tending to most.

I have talked over the years about the homeschoolers of years ago…how they didn’t have ALL the STUFF we have today and they did just fine. Well, I know now more than ever how much I want to be like them! Not relying on stuff, but on God. Keeping it simple. Focusing on my kids. Getting off the screens (that just make me feel so inadequate anyway) and stop searching for answers there, and start searching for answers in the Word.

They say your babies don’t keep. Well, neither do your teens. In my mind, I just hadn’t really realized that. But when your daughter starts a new life two hours away…no matter how good of a life it is, that is just HARD. You are faced with the fact that those childhood years are done. They are over. It doesn’t go forever.


But they were the foundation for what has built her into who she is now. And thankfully we built mostly the right things…even though we may have fussed over things that we didn’t need to at times.

So I am telling all the homeschool mamas today…your babies don’t keep. Your teens don’t keep. Picture yourself here like me someday, when it’s all done…and ask yourself…is what I’m focusing on right now really going to matter in the end?

I want to tell every homeschool mom reading this…yes, the transcript is important. Yes, the curriculum is important. But truly, what matters is a mom that points them to Jesus. Not to the things of this world.

I am thankful I learned some of these lessons along the way. Some were painful lessons, but I am thankful that I tried to keep it simple. And to my surprise, it seems there is still room to simplify even more.

I recently started a Personalized Homeschool Consulting and Mentorship Program for these very reasons. How I wish early on I had someone to walk alongside me, that was seasoned, and could have gently told me…”Keep your eyes on Jesus.” or someone to say, “Stop looking for the perfect curriculum. You’ve got one that works. Look at your kids instead.”

I have just started appointments and I am so thrilled to be able to do this for the homeschooling community. If you are interested in my consulting or mentorship click here or email me any time!

This journey is such a blessing. It doesn’t have to be filled with fear when walked in faith…

Babies don’t keep. Teens don’t keep. But thankfully, by the Lord’s grace they grow into adults you will adore and be blessed by each day.

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